A Slow Acting Motivational Miracle Medicine

By Darryl Stewart, Head of the Herd

I met a woman over a year ago who was not at all happy with her employer. The situation seemed hopeless to me. Trust was dead between her employer and herself. She had worked for the same company for many years and was very happy with her job. When she and her team disagreed openly on how to treat a certain customer, they (and especially her) were not treated very well. It was not the issue itself; it was the way she was treated when she did not agree that really crushed her.

When I had a follow up with her a year later, I was surprised to find her much happier. While there had never been a true apology, there had been some very considerate and very personal touches by her direct supervisor and the big boss. A few simple touches totally surprised her and made her feel appreciated again.

In my marriage, we often talk (yes sometimes vigorously) about our differences, but seldom resolve them with words. We have a “blow up” and then a period of feeling each other out more on the issue. After a blow up is one of my favorite parts of our marriage, we are both usually very considerate of each other, showing each other that we still care and appreciate the other person. It reminds me of why I married this wonderful woman in the first place.

Sometime maybe tough situations are best left in the past. Showing you still care and value someone regardless of a disagreement is a great remedy for a suffering relationship, whether business or personal.

IBEX Payroll extends our profound respect and immeasurable gratitude to all the ancestors and keepers of the land on whose traditional territories our work takes place. We acknowledge that we are on Treaty 1 territory, the traditional gathering place of the Anishinaabe, Cree, Oji-Cree, Dakota and Dene people and the traditional homeland of the Métis people. This land is sacred, historical, and significant.

Every time we acknowledge this truth, we have an invitation and an opportunity to reflect on the wrongs of the past, what we do in the present, and what we can do to continually honour the people whose lands and water we benefit from today.

This statement only acts as a first step in honouring the land we reside on and its peoples, and must be paired with education, understanding and informed action.